Why do I attract the dregs of society?
I often wonder to myself why I seem to attract the dregs of humanity in every aspect of my life, be it selecting a college to go to, trying to find a relationship or something along those lines. I am getting tired of it. Why can’t I just find someone that accepts me for everything that I am? I feel like I am perishing considering there is nothing stable in my life nor anyone stable in my life. I’ve only held contract level web design jobs and I’ve never really had a relationship, nor friends that stay friends for long. I never had a stable home nor anything in my life that I could cling on to.
I just want to find someone that will love me, accept me for everything that I am and allow me to be me. Why is that so hard? Why is finding someone so fucking hard? I want to know!
January 8th, 2007 at 12:12 am
A frank post deserves a frank response. It’s hard to find someone because it’s when you’re not looking, in my experience, that you stand a much better chance of meeting ‘the one’ or even anyone at all. Perhaps at times we give off desperate or lonely vibes when single that emanate out from us and attract opportunists and the unstable. When happy and content in ourselves, we give off an air of confidence and resilience and therefore become a much better bet for others who, like us, have the same feelings and desires.
If you think you attract lame ducks, then a part of you is responsible for that - and I speak from experience. It took me years to realise I was dropping what was my innate standard in favour of people who would bolster me in one way or another. Once I stopped that, once I realised lame ducks have to help themselves, life got a whole lot better.
So I guess the message is: patience, courage and work on yourself. Don’t think about finding the other, simply make sure you socialise, relax, do what you have to do and see what happens. x
January 8th, 2007 at 6:24 am
Thanks dude ^_^