“Friends” suck
I write this pissed off over events that happened last night. Especially because most of it was self-induced. However, this does not make what I have to say on the subject less true. When a girl you are interested says that she wants to be “friends” with you, that feels like a veritable death.
Yes, “friends” do suck. Would I want to date my best friend? Definitely! Why not? Would I want to marry my best friend? It’s very likely. It’s just when women say that when you are looking for a more romantically-based relationship, you feel like you just got royally screwed.
When I am asking someone out, am I looking for a strictly-plutonic relationship? Hell no! I don’t think many people are when they do - so when you want to tell me that you just want to be friends, that is not letting me off easy. It is just making the pain worse. I don’t abandon my friends to their own devices. SO, it is not really wanting to be friends but rather wanting to break my heart in a less painful manner (in your opinion).